Hard limits bdsm

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As a submissive, one of the first things you will be asked by almost every Dominant is: what are your limits? You will encounter this sometimes in chat, in play, and when negotiating a relationship with a new Dominant. How can a Dominant know if you have health issues or triggers or are just plain terrified of something unless you tell them? Please check the Submissive Guide for articles on that topic. So what are limits? A limit is something you do not wish to do, whether by choice or necessity.

Limits establish what you will or will not allow for yourself in play or serving, and it could even extend to any interaction with a Dominant. A hard limit is something you will not do under any circumstance.

Hard limits bdsm

For me, that would include scat play, age play, or being turned upside down or spun when tied. Other limits are due to health objectives — spin me around and I will barf. A soft limit is something that at this time you do not think you want to do, but perhaps your Dominant can convince you.

Hard limits bdsm

Or it may be something you will only do with a specific Dominant, or in a specific play situation. For me, that might be an interrogation. Interrogation squicked me from the beginning, but I have since done a private scene with my Master. It is extreme edge play for me, and not only takes a lot out of me but it has lasting effects, and so it remains a soft limit. : Series on Limits. There are many checklists online, and several articles in the Submissive Guide to help you get started.

I had to fill one of these out when I started with my Dom. I was very very new to the scene and had an interesting and somewhat shocking meeting with Him while He explained what a hard limits bdsm of the terms meant. There were a lot of activities that I could not figure out why anyone would want to do them. I had no objections but they were not of interest. Some activities I definitely wanted to try and some were a definite NO and hard limit.

Hard limits bdsm

Whether or not you like or dislike an activity is a matter of personal choice, taste, and experience. I was filling out my checklist with someone looking on who did not understand why I would fill in that I liked my hair being pulled.

Hard limits bdsm

In a vanilla setting, hair pulling would be a bad thing, but many Dominants use this as a power move. Explain your fears, objections or dislikes to your Dominant.

Hard limits bdsm

These limits even the hard limits do not have to be set in stone. You may decide to review them once in a while as you see interesting scenes at parties, or expand your risk acceptance. Breath play was a hard limit for me in the beginning, partially due to health and partially to fear. I now participate in short sessions with my Master, and it rarely fails to send me into subspace.

One form of suspension which was not a limit triggered such a massive panic reaction that it has become a hard limit. Your hard limits bdsm will change as you experience, grow and change. You can have limits and still submit to your Dominant. It is simply a matter of communication. I tell Him the reasons why that activity is not going to be a good hard limits bdsm for me.

Sometimes as a mindfuck He will threaten to do it anyway, but I trust that He will keep my safety in mind. He wants to take me out of my comfort zone and expand my horizons. Your soft limits will often be challenged and influenced by your Dominant.

This is a wonderful place to end up as you will be safe to explore a huge range of activities with your Dominant. Never say you have no limits! Do you want to sleep in a dog crate? Are you keen on suffocation? Would you like to be interrogated or branded? Somewhere along the line, you will encounter something that you do not want to do. For a new submissive either new to submission or new to real life as opposed to online BDSMI highly recommend knowing your limits and expressing them.

No matter where you are in submission, learning about, evaluating and re-evaluating your limits is a part of growth. Every month I'll update you on the latest from Submissive Guide and you'll get first access to new resources, offers and events. Two Types of Limits A hard limit is something you will not do under any circumstance. Communication You can have limits and still submit to your Dominant. Keep us running with your support. SubguidePlus for our latest tips, tutorials and submissive tools! Lessons in Submissive Speech.

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